Self-Improvement tips that ACTUALLY work!

Category: Self-Improvement

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Transcript

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You can't go anywhere if you don't know where you're going. People will either drain you or drive you.

If you neglect your body, your body will neglect you. The things that you do every day determine the person that you are going to be.

If you don't quit, the only other answer is winning. It's just a matter of

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when. Something that we all have in common.

No matter your race, your age, your gender, your socioeconomic status, your upbringing or outlook on life, we all want to be happy with the lives that we're living. And that dream life looks different for us all, as it should.

But

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no matter what this life you envision or or this person you dream yourself to be is, in order to change the things around you, you have to change yourself first. Now, in today's video, I want to share with you five key areas that you should focus on to improve yourself first in

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order to achieve the dream life that you desire. I remember my 30th birthday about 2 and 1/2 years ago.

I was feeling stuck, uninspired, stagnant. It was like I loved my life.

I I very grateful for the life that I was living. And I was blessed, but I was just I don't want to

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say bored, but I I just the life I envisioned I wasn't necessarily living. I knew I could do more.

I knew I could be more. I just knew I could elevate to a certain level.

And it was then that I realized I have to make some changes within myself in order to change

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everything else around me. And in order to do that, I had to start my self-improvement journey.

And I mean, I think we're always evolving, working on ourselves and changing. But when you actively make the decision to improve, it's the foundation of success, foundation of confidence, of a beautiful

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life. really.

And I think for a lot of us when we think of self-improvement, we think self-help books or podcasts and all of those things are great. They're very, very helpful.

But when you really want to improve yourself, when you really want to change your life, it's all about taking real intentional action

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to become the best version of you. When you commit to self-improvement, it builds confidence.

You attract better relationships. You improve the relationships that you have, the relationship that you have with yourself.

you improve your discipline and and your focus, your habits and

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productivity and all of those things create a life that is filled with purpose and joy. Now, the biggest shift for me happened when I realized that my future is in my hands.

Sure, life is unpredictable and we live in a world where there are a lot of things that we don't have control over. But one of the

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things that you have control over are your habits. Your day-to-day is in your control and the habits that you build today will create the life that you live tomorrow.

So the first area I want to talk to you about today and it's the most important in my opinion. This I would consider to be the domino effect

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area. This will affect everything else I talk to you about today.

But it is your mindset. Your thoughts shape your reality.

If you believe you can achieve. And I know that kind of sounds corny but it's very very true.

You have to start feeding yourself with empowering

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positive beliefs around you and your future. And that happens with growth mindset and a fixed mindset.

So you have people who have growth mindsets and people who have fixed mindset. A fixed mindset focuses on fear, doubt, procrastination.

Feixed mindset feels,

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oh, this is what I'm born into, so this is where I have to stay versus having a growth mindset. People with a growth mindset understand that skills, intelligence, routines, habits, all of those things can be learned.

Having a growth mindset opens the door to

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learning, resilience, success. You have to reframe negative thinking.

Going from, oh, I can't do this, to I'm learning and I'll get better at it. Say that there's a challenge ahead and you're like, you know what?

I'm not even going to start because I don't I don't

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think I'm going to finish. If that is the mindset that you have, you won't even start.

So, you will never know. I think a lot of people are afraid of failing and they see failure as defeat or failure means you're insignificant or you're not meant to have this, but failure is just a lesson.

In order to

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fail, you have to start. You're already successful by starting.

Speak positivity into yourself. Daily affirmations, like those are really real.

I wake up every single morning and I play positive affirmations so that I'm not worried

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about what happened yesterday or anxious about what possibly could happen today. Focus on your mindset and you will change your life.

And when you focus on your mindset, it's this evolution that starts to happen. It's this constant learning which takes me to personal growth and learning.

Never ever ever

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stop evolving. I think we live in a society where school is where you learn and after school the learning stops and it's just all about life.

But in actuality the real learning starts once you leave the classroom. You have to experience life in order to know how to

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navigate it in order to change in order to grow. Books, podcasts, a mentor.

Invest in yourself. Keep your wheels turnurning.

Set a goal to learn something new every month. Whether that be a business podcast, a self-help book.

I mean, pick a fun activity, cooking,

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painting, learning an instrument. Always keep your mind sharp and evolving and you'll be able to adapt and change with whatever is going on in the world.

Staying current with what's going on in the world. We live in an age of technology and things are changing like

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that. You don't want to look up in 10 years and be like, "Dang, I'm lost because I stopped learning 10 years ago.

I stayed where I am and now I have to catch up." Celebrate your growth. Even that that 1% every day, give yourself a pat on the back.

Oh my gosh, I did it today. I took 1%.

And it it may seem

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small me talking to you about it, but when you're on this journey, you'll realize how significant 1% every day is. Surround yourself with people who want to see you win, who support you and your goals.

Get a mentor, a personal coach. Speaking of personal coach, I want to

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You know, I we have friends and family, you know, and people who root us on and support us and believe in us, but sometimes we need help along the way, right? Right?

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Always remember the most important project you will work on is yourself. Now in addition to your mindset and your personal growth and learning, not far behind is going to be your daily habits and productivity.

Your success is hidden in your daily routine. The things that

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you do every day determine the person that you are going to be. What is something that a lot of successful people have in common?

They have intentional habits. That's why you see a lot of people who are successful have morning routines, have night routines.

That was the only reason why I picked up

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a 5:00 a.m. morning routine because I saw that wealthy people had morning and night routines.

I want to be wealthy. So, I'm going to work on a routine.

I am going to change my negative habits to positive habits. Habits that fuel me, habits that help me grow, not habits

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that break me down or or destroy the life around me. When you have a morning routine, you're starting your day with intention.

And you don't have to get up at 5:00 a.m. to have a successful morning routine.

Your morning routine should be yours. That is your opportunity to start the day how you see

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fit, that fuels you, that allows you to be the best version of you throughout the day. You're about to go out into the world and give yourself to all of these other people and all of these other things that may not have something to do with you.

Start your day the way that you want to start. The same goes for a

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night routine. Ending your day the way that you want so that you can start the next day.

You see how the domino affects how you end your day has an effect on how you start your day. Start your day with intention.

Planning, journaling, meditating, exercising, whatever that

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may look like for you. Ending your day with intention.

Winding down so that you have quality sleep because your quality sleep affects your productivity the next day. Time blocking focus.

Block out the noise. If you have a task ahead, you can get it done if you set aside the time to

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do it. Number four is health and wellness.

In order to have a strong mind, you have to have a strong body. You have to treat your body with care.

If we do not take care of our bodies, our bodies will break down on us, especially as we age. Prioritize movement, nutritious food, a sufficient

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amount of sleep. When you feel good physically, you naturally show up with more energy and competence.

You cannot pour from an empty cup. Prioritizing yourself is not being vain.

In order for you to do for other people, you have to do for yourself first. Fuel your body with clean, nutritious, healthy food.

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Move your body daily. And you don't have to overdo it.

You don't have to go lift the heaviest weights in the gym. Babe, if you walk every single day, you will see an improvement of your energy level, getting fresh air.

You know, you you're watching me right now on YouTube. You can pull up a yoga video.

You could pull

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up an at home workout video. You could pull up a stretching video.

Move your body. If you neglect your body, your body will neglect you eventually.

Quality sleep. It regulates your hormones.

It clears your mind. Allows your mind to operate properly.

Have you ever not gotten sleep, tried to get up

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and do something, and you were just foggy, like you were tired, you couldn't focus, you did not have the energy? Treat yourself as if you are the vessel for everything else around you to to operate.

Health and wellness has to be a priority if you want to see change in

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your life. And lastly, relationship and boundaries.

Who you surround yourself with matters. Protect your energy.

Set boundaries. People will either drain you or drive you.

So, choose wisely. Seek high value friendships and relationships that uplift you, that inspire you.

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Platonic, romantic. These people need to add value to your life and not suck the life out of you.

A lot of us fall into the trap of, "Oh, this person has been around x amount of time," or, "Oh, I love this person." or oh, I'm committed to this person. Don't let anybody drain

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the life out of you. You only get one to live.

And you cannot get the time back that's lost. Saying no is not you being selfish.

Saying no is setting boundaries. And when you have boundaries, you have self-respect.

And when you respect yourself, other people have no other choice but to do the same.

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I told myself that 2025 is my year of no. I I support you.

I believe in you. I'm here for you.

But if I can't do it, if doing something will take away from me and my mission, I have to say no. Saying no does not mean I don't care

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about you or your goals. It just means I care about myself.

And in order for me to show up the best way that I can for anyone else, I have to show up for myself. Detox from drama.

If somebody brings drama, they have to go. I I and I don't know if this is something as that

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as I'm aging I'm I'm understanding and realizing but I I just I can't do energy draining things. Have you ever walked in a room and someone was just so sad and as soon as you walk in and you see this person sad you just feel like oh my god what's wrong?

Like you you know that

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feeling. You've seen somebody crying and you you know naturally it's just like you feel this wave of sadness even if you were just jolly happy golucky 5 seconds ago.

And not saying that you can't be there for someone in their time of need or sadness, but if someone is

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constantly bringing negativity around you, you have to let them go. I had a girlfriend years ago, sweet girl.

Every time she called my phone, she was complaining about something. She was crying about something.

And at first, I was there. I was listening because I

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love to be the person that is there for other people. And I would try to speak life into her and try to speak life into her.

But I started to notice that as she called, when after a while when her name would pop up on my phone, I would get this like feeling of anxiety like, "Oh my god, what is wrong with her now? Oh my god, do I need to go somewhere quiet

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to sit here and talk her off a ledge?" Everybody's problem is not your responsibility. And once you understand that separating yourself from negativity is not you dismissing someone else, it's just you respecting yourself, setting boundaries for yourself, and always

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remember it is quality over quantity. Having two quality friends who will be there for you if you break a foot and can't work and you need a couch to sleep on versus those 20 friends that you always have a good time with and you always show up looking good with who won't even give you 50 cents if you

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needed it. And that's a bit dramatic, but always remember quality over quantity in your relationships.

Now, I know you're probably thinking, "That's it, Evette? Those five simple things.

That's all I have to work on." Yes, working on those areas. It'll have your chest out, shoulders back, chin up, a

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smile on your face, a glow in your eye, a different stride in your walk. And when you show up better, you produce better.

And when you produce better, that dream life, those things that you're after, they will start to appear around you. But you have to work on you

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first. Now, before I let you go, I just want to leave you with a simple plan that will help you kickstart this self-improvement journey so that you can get started today.

Number one, write down your goals. Get clear on what it is you want.

You You can't you can't go anywhere if you don't know where you're

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going. Um where where do you want to be in six months?

Where do you want to be in a year, 5 years? Um I actually have a vision map.

It's a free template. I'll leave it down below for you.

It's something that I started with a couple years ago. And it just it helps me helps me know where I'm going.

Um it literally

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breaks down so many different areas of your life and just gets your mind turnurning to decide what it is you really want. Cuz when you know what you want, you'll know what direction you have to head in to get there.

Or you can make a plan to head in that direction to get there. Number two, build powerful habits.

Start with just one habit. Don't

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let all of this stuff bombard you and you feel like you have to tackle all five of these things at once. Start with one.

Show yourself that you could do it. Especially if you doubt yourself.

Pick just one habit. Eating healthy, exercising, walking once a day for the next four weeks.

We're doing a 90-day

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challenge on my channel. I'll leave the rules below for you.

You could start today. We started April 1st, but it is never too late to start.

Some of the rules, there are some habits in there you may want to focus on. Pick out of there.

Just focus on one. Number three, protect your energy.

Audit your circle.

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Limit the negativity around you. See who in your life is constantly taking from you or see who's giving, you know, and and and as they receive from you.

That's what you want in your life. Protect your energy because energy is very contagious.

Number four, invest in your

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personal growth. Books, podcasts, mentor, a personal coach.

Surround yourself with things and people that will elevate and inspire you and get you closer to your goals. And number five, stay consistent on this journey.

This is

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not an overnight process. Stay consistent.

Stay the path. Make a plan.

Believe in the plan. Follow the plan.

Avoid distractions. Avoid opinions.

If you stick to that plan, you will get to where you are trying to go. Now, if you've made it this far in the video,

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you are already on the right path. You are capable of much more than you realize.

Commit to your growth. Stay consistent, and you will see results.

It is only a matter of time. If you don't quit, the only other answer is winning.

It's just a matter of when. Now, let me know in the comments, what is one area

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or self-improvement area that you are focused on right now to see growth and change in your life. And if you liked this video today, please don't hesitate to let me know in the comments.

Like, comment, subscribe so that I can continue to give you more motivating content like this. Thank you guys so

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much for watching today's video and I will see you on the next